Thursday, October 27, 2011

Haji Mabroor - matlamat semua jemaah.

Ustaz Hassan. Kain Ihram dan Sejadah di beri kepada jemaah.
 
Petang tadi kami mengikuti kuliah Haji yang di kendalikan oleh ustaz Hassan yang datang khas dari Riyadh. InshaAllah tahun ini, pada malam 2 hb November, aku bersama isteri akan bertolak dari kediaman kami di Jeddah menuju ke Mekah untuk tawaf selamat datang, dan seterusnya ke Mina di mana kami akan berkemah sehingga hari Wukuf di Arafah.

Kursus telah di ada kan di kediaman Tuan Zarir dan Puan Neme, dan di hadiri oleh para jemaah lain yang akan turut sama di dalam rombongan muasasah yang sama.

Ustaz Hassan memulakan kuliah dengan sedikit sejarah Haji....
"Masa pertama kali Rasulullah (swt) mengerjakan Haji, semua 124,000 penduduk Medinah mahu mengikuti baginda. Di waktu itu Rasullullah (swt)  mula memperkenalkan sistem kuota. Hanya 100,000 di benarkan mengikuti baginda ke Mekah, sementara 24,000 lagi tinggal d Medinah untuk mempertahankan Kota itu dari kemungkinan serangan musuh." Kata Ustaz Hassan.

Ustaz Hassan menyambung...
"Jika kita mengerjakan ibadah Umrah, segala dosa kita di antara satu Umrah dan Umrah seterusnya di ampuni Allah. Apabila kita melakukan ibadah Haji, dan Haji kita di terima Allah, kita kembali bersih dan suci tanpa dosa seperti kanak2 yang baru lahir. Segala dosa kita di ampuni! Amatlah penting untuk kita mengetahui bagaimana untuk mendapat Haji Mabroor! Sesiapa yang membuat Haji yang Mabroor di janjikan Syurga!"

Kami mendengar penuh khusuk. Beliau memberitahu....

"Syarat mendapat Haji Mabroor...ialah...
Pertamanya, hati dan niat kita mestilah ihlas. Ibadah kita mestilah semata-mata kerana Allah...bukan untuk mendapat pujian manusia atau berbangga-bangga. Jangan sekali-kali kita menjadi riak, kerana hati yang riak boleh terjerumus sebagai syirik!"

"Keduanya, kita mengikuti sunah Rasullullah dan melakukan cara-cara dan tertib yang di lakukan baginda. Perkara2 rukun di sempurnakan, dan yang wajib di lakukan, di masa yang sama yang di larang di tinggalkan!"

"Ketiga, mestilah kita sucikan diri, dan sucikan harta kita dari riba, hutang, dan sumber2 yang tidak halal."

Begitulah ustaz Hassan berkongsi ilmu pengetahuan beliau demi kepentingan kami.

Nota:

1. Rukun Haji
- niat berihram
- wukuf
- tawaf
- saei
- tahlul
- tertib

2. Perkara2 yang wajib ketika mengerjakan ibadah Haji
- niat d Miqat
- wukuf d siang hari ( zuhur hingga maghrib)
- d mudzalifah setengah malam.
(Berehat lah dalam 2 atau 3 jam)
(Haji itu ialah jihad: harus mengalami susah payah dan penat lelah)
- melontar di jamrah Akabah. 7 biji.
- tahalul awal.
- Mabit d Mina paling kurang setengah malam.
- melontar pada hari tasreek di ke tiga2 jamrah.
- tawaf widak.

3. Pesanan
- banyak lah bersabar
- sucikan hati sebelum meninggalkan rumah untuk mengerjakan Haji
- mesti ada bermaaf maafan, dan merendah diri, serta berkenalan dengan Jemaah lain.
- waktu di Arafah, banyak2 lah berisghfar, zikir, dan berdoa. Doa di Arafah di makbulkan Allah.
- bacalah Labbaikallah dengan suara nyaring, kerana apa juga yang mendengar akan menjadi saksi di akhirat kelak.

Sekadar berkongsi apa yang aku fahami dari kuliah dari Ustaz Hassan tadi. Yang kurang itu dari saya, yang baik itu dari beliau dan dari Allah jua. Ampun maaf di pohon dari semua jika ada salah dan silap sepanjang sayang menulis di blog ini dan sepanjang kita berkenalan. Semoga Allah membalas dan memakbulkan doa kalian supaya saya, isteri dan para jemaah selamat pergi dan balik dan ibadah kami di terima Allah....

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Teardrops on her keyboard

(I was listening to Taylor Swift Song, Teardrops on my guitar,
and
I thought about writing about Teardrops on her keyboard)

Waiting, suddenly has a new meaning
for Emilda, since one fateful morning
Joey waved goodbye on her laptop screen
he didn't turn back, her tears not seen.

Her heart hides, a love so deep
for a man she knows, not hers to keep.

Hours of happiness he has given
poems and songs he has written
and now, she knows he is gone
at her desk, nursing her pain all alone
she continues waiting without reasons.

Teardrops fall on her keyboard
as she reads again her words
which she has typed and saved
"I never thought it was worth it,
 waiting for your love,
counting the minutes,
and then I felt your kiss,
I could wait forever for this”

Teardrops on her keyboard
symbolic of love she felt much
but the one she has to live without.
.


Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Something about (Sex) Health~!

 (This article supports 'Sexual acts' between legally married spouses only)

Sexual Health

When you're in the mood, it's a sure bet that the last thing on your mind is boosting your immune system or maintaining a healthy weight. Yet good sex offers those health benefits and more. That's a surprise to many people, says Joy Davidson, PhD, a New York psychologist and sex therapist. "Of course, sex is everywhere in the media," she says. "But the idea that we are vital, sexual creatures is still looked at in some cases with disgust or in other cases a bit of embarrassment. So to really take a look at how our sexuality adds to our life and enhances our life and our health, both physical and psychological, is eye-opening for many people."
Sex does a body good in a number of ways, according to Davidson and other experts. The benefits aren't just anecdotal or hearsay -- each of these health benefits of sex is backed by scientific scrutiny.

Sex Relieves Stress

A big health benefit of sex is lower blood pressure and overall stress reduction, according to researchers from Scotland who reported their findings in the journal Biological Psychology. They studied 24 women and 22 men who kept records of their sexual activity. Then the researchers subjected them to stressful situations -- such as speaking in public and doing verbal arithmetic -- and noted their blood pressure response to stress. Those who had intercourse had better responses to stress than those who engaged in other sexual behaviors or abstained.

Sex Lowers Blood Pressure

Another study published in Biological Psychology found that frequent intercourse was associated with lower diastolic blood pressure (the lower, or second, number in a blood pressure reading). This study focused on people living with their sex partner.
Still further research found a link between partner hugs and lower blood pressure in women.
Elevated blood pressure is a risk factor for coronary artery disease, heart attack, kidney disease, and stroke.

Sex Boosts Immunity

Good sexual health may mean better physical health. Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections. Scientists at Wilkes University in Wilkes-Barre, Pa., took samples of saliva, which contain IgA, from 112 college students who reported the frequency of sex they had.
Those in the "frequent" group -- once or twice a week -- had higher levels of IgA than those in the other three groups -- who reported being abstinent, having sex less than once a week, or having it very often, three or more times weekly.

Sex Counts As Exercise

"Sex is a great mode of exercise," says Patti Britton, PhD, a Los Angeles sexologist and president of the American Association of Sexuality Educators and Therapists. It takes work, from both a physical and psychological perspective, to do it well, she says.
The benefits of sex as a form of exercise are many - sex can improve your cardiovascular fitness, strength, flexibility, and balance, not to mention your emotional health.

Sex Burns Calories

Thirty minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. The number of calories burned during sex is about the same as the number burned by walking at 2 miles per hour.
Doubling up on the 30 minute sessions, you could drop that pound in 21 hour-long sessions.

Sex Improves Cardiovascular Health

While some older folks may worry that the efforts expended during sex could cause a stroke, that's not so, according to researchers from England. In a study published in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health, scientists found that the frequency of sex was not associated with stroke in the 914 men they followed for 20 years.
And the heart health benefits of sex don't end there. The researchers also found that having sex twice or more a week reduced the risk of fatal heart attack by half for the men, compared with those who had sex less than once a month.

Sex Boosts Self-Esteem

Boosting self-esteem was one of 237 reasons people have sex, collected by University of Texas researchers and published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior.
That finding makes sense to Gina Ogden, PhD, a sex therapist and marriage and family therapist in Cambridge, Mass., although she finds that those who already have self-esteem say they sometimes have sex to feel even better. "One of the reasons people say they have sex is to feel good about themselves," she tells WebMD. "Great sex begins with self-esteem, and it raises it. If the sex is loving, connected, and what you want, it raises it."

Sex Strengthens Your Well-Being

Sex, like any activity that fosters a close and loving connection to your partner, not only raises self-esteem, but strengthens your overall sense of well-being. Studies have shown that people with strong social support networks (which includes lovers) are healthier and happier than their less-connected peers.

Sex Improves Intimacy

Having sex and orgasms increases levels of the hormone oxytocin, the so-called love hormone, which helps us bond and build trust. Researchers from the University of Pittsburgh and the University of North Carolina evaluated 59 premenopausal women before and after warm contact with their husbands and partners ending with hugs. They found that the more contact, the higher the oxytocin levels.
"Oxytocin allows us to feel the urge to nurture and to bond," Britton says.
Higher oxytocin has also been linked with a feeling of generosity. So if you're feeling suddenly more generous toward your partner than usual, credit the love hormone.

Sex Reduces Pain

As the hormone oxytocin surges, endorphins increase, and pain declines. So if your headache, arthritis pain, or PMS symptoms seem to improve after sex, you can thank those higher oxytocin levels.

Oxytocin – The Love Hormone
A study published in the Bulletin of Experimental Biology and Medicine examined the response of the “love hormone” oxytocin on pain perception in an experiment with 48 volunteers. Study participants inhaled oxytocin vapor and then had their fingers pricked. Those who had inhaled oxytocin lowered their pain threshold by more than half.

Sex Reduces Prostate Cancer Risk

Frequent ejaculations, especially in 20-something men, may reduce the risk of prostate cancer later in life, Australian researchers reported in the British Journal of Urology International. When they followed men diagnosed with prostate cancer and those without, they found no association of prostate cancer with the number of sexual partners as the men reached their 30s, 40s, and 50s.
But they found men who had five or more ejaculations weekly while in their 20s reduced their risk of getting prostate cancer later by a third.
Another study, reported in the Journal of the American Medical Association, found that frequent ejaculations, 21 or more a month, were linked to lower prostate cancer risk in older men, as well, compared with less frequent ejaculations of four to seven monthly.

Sex Strengthens Pelvic Floor Muscles

For women, doing a few pelvic floor muscle exercises known as Kegel exercises during sex offers a couple of benefits. You will enjoy more pleasure, and you'll also strengthen the area and help to minimize the risk of incontinence later in life.
To do a basic Kegel exercise, tighten the muscles of your pelvic floor, as if you're trying to stop the flow of urine. Count to three, then release.

Additional Benefits of Kegel Exercises

Kegel exercises have a number of proven health benefits in addition to making sex more enjoyable. The strengthening of the pelvic floor muscles can help prevent prolapse (a slipping out of position) of the vagina, uterus, and bladder. Pelvic floor muscles may be weakened later in life as a result of childbearing, being overweight, and aging. Kegel exercises help offset the consequences of weakened pelvic floor muscles.

Sex Helps You Sleep Better

The oxytocin released during orgasm also promotes sleep, according to research.
And getting enough sleep has been linked with a host of other good things, such as maintaining a healthy weight and blood pressure. Something to think about, especially if you've been wondering why your guy can be active one minute and snoring the next.

Sex As Physical Exercise Also Promotes Sleep

The physical exercise component of sex can also help you relax and sleep better, in addition to the hormonal effects. People who get regular exercise tend to sleep better and have more restful sleep. Moreover, as we have seen in the earlier part of this slideshow, sex is a great way to get some exercise.

Summary

Take note that sex is good for you in ways you may never have imagined and that the health benefits extend well beyond the bedroom.

Original article can be found  HERE

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

Re-setting my alarm clock.

This morning, my alarm went off at 6.05am as usual. Just in time for me to perform the Fajr prayer. However, for the last few mornings, it did not matter. By the time the alarm went off, I have already finished my prayer. I am still having jet lag, and have been sleeping as early as 9pm, and waking up at 4am every morning since coming back from my ten days vacation in Malaysia.

This incidental early to bed and early to rise makes me feel good. There is something different about doing the Fajr prayer right on time - I feel more at peace.

Therefore, this morning I re-set my alarm and from tomorrow morning onwards, it will go off at 5am - on time for Fajr, and no longer just in time~


Friday, October 21, 2011

How long must a string be...

How long must a piece of string be
before it can be tied into knots?
how long before one can see
that life's best lessons are from hard knocks!

Below are TEN of lessons from my own school of hard knocks:

1. It is better to be heard than to be taken for granted!
>  If you have a point of view, say it! If you have a question, ask! If you have feelings, express them!

2. Don't fear a fall, instead learn how to bounce back even higher!
>  Many decisions we make in life are based on our gut-feeling or intuition - but we take the decisions anyway. A few have proven to be bad decisions, but we learn and benefit anyway. There are many decisions, no matter how risky they have appeared in the beginning which have brought us closer to our dreams. Keep following our guts, they can turn out to be more right than we think!

Would you like me to give you a formula for success? It’s quite simple, really. Double your rate of failure.
Thomas J. Watson

3. Never borrow anything you can't afford to pay or return !
>  Debt to Asset ratio must not fall below one, unless you are prepared to be declared a bankrupt! Always have viable exit plans from any debt or borrowing! Anything borrowed must be returned on time as promised!

4. Believe in the power of prayer and doa...and do not try to second guess God's plans for you!
> Pray with your action, and pray with your heart and soul. Ask for God's guidance and blessings to open the paths for you - then dive in with full confidence and trust!  God knows best. What ever the consequence of your actions, they happen for good reasons!

5. Focus on what you can influence - don't fret over what you can't control!
> Leave the politicking to the politicians. But make your vote counts. You can't control the traffic jam, but you can always choose the route to take!

One application of this principle is on changing people. Which one do you think you can change: yourself or other people? You can’t change other people but you can change yourself. So focus on changing yourself.

6. The Boss is always right. If he is wrong far too often, then it is you who should look for another job! 
> It is folly to continue fighting with your bosses, even if you think he is wrong. Let him know your views, and if he continue to be wrong in your opinion or not acting in line with your values, then look for another job.

7. Fight only with a worthy opponent!
> Never fight with anyone weaker than you are, because if you lose, it is more embarrassing and if you win, it is already expected anyway!

8. There is no free lunch!
> The Newton's law applies, "For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction!" If you think you have received a favor - start thinking of how to return it in your own way.

9. Tears can prevent a heart attack.
> Cry if you need to. Weep if necessary. Letting go is much healthier than bottling up all the emotions. Only real men are able to cry, shamelessly.

10. This is your life - make your choices and be accountable for them!
> “No one else can ever make your choices for you. Your choices are yours alone. They are as much a part of you as every breath you will take, every moment of your life.”
“You cannot manage your life if you do not manage your self. You cannot manage your self if you do not manage your choices. Manage your choices, and you will manage your life.”


Thursday, October 20, 2011

How to Manage a Perfectionist

Do you have a perfectionist on your team? The good news is that your direct report has high standards and a fine attention for detail. The bad news is that he fixates on every facet of a project and can't set priorities. Can you harness these positive qualities without indulging the bad? Can you help him become less of a stickler? Yes and yes. Managing a perfectionist can be challenging but it's not impossible. And when done well, you both will benefit.

What the Experts Say
Many people claim to be perfectionists because they think it makes them look good. But true perfectionism is a flaw more than an asset. "Everybody is a perfectionist to some degree. It's when it becomes an obsession that it's a problem," says Robert Steven Kaplan, a Professor of Management Practice at Harvard Business School and author of What to Ask the Person in the Mirror: Critical Questions for Becoming a More Effective Leader and Reaching Your Potential. In many cases, this compulsive behavior can be the thorn in the side of a great performer. "I think they're fabulous people and I think they're out of control," says, Thomas J. DeLong, the Philip J. Stomberg Professor of Management Practice at Harvard Business School and the author of Flying Without a Net. Overseeing a purist requires patience and a unique approach to supervision. Below are several tactics to get the most from your fastidious team member.

Appreciate the positives while recognizing the negatives
Working with perfectionists can be frustrating. They tend to be impatient with or hypercritical of others and they're not good at delegating. "On some level, they actually believe no one can do it better," says DeLong. And they struggle to appropriately allocate their time. "They will focus on the last 2% excessively when 94% is good enough," he says. Recognize that while irritating, their behavior is not all bad. There are many upsides as well. "You can't be a perfectionist without having your head, heart and soul in the game. They're committed to their work and the institution," says DeLong. In fact, because of their insistence on excellence, they often raise the standards of those around them.

Give the right job
Perfectionists are not a good fit for every job. Don't give them projects that they will struggle to complete or roles that will cause them to spin out. Accept that they may not be good managers as they are likely to demand too much of their people (see "hypercritical" and "bad at delegating" above). They are also unlikely to thrive in charge of a big complicated business. Instead, find jobs where their fastidiousness will be appreciated. "Put them in a place in the organization with narrower bandwidth," says Kaplan. Every organization has jobs that require intense attention to detail and encompass a relatively limited scope.

Increase self-awareness
Even in the right position, perfectionists can cause trouble — slowing progress or demoralizing colleagues. You have to help your direct reports recognize when their exacting standards result in negative outcomes. "When someone becomes more self-aware, you can deactivate them so they take a different perspective," says DeLong. Many perfectionists don't realize what they're doing; others do but aren't motivated to change. "They know it's not good for them, but it feels good in the short-term," says DeLong. Explain what you're seeing — "I notice that you like to get everything right" — and then help them see the downsides. "No one loves to do things just adequately," says Kaplan. But most work requires compromise and tradeoffs. Explain that by setting priorities and identifying what matters most, they can save themselves time and effort. He also suggests explaining how perfectionist tendencies often prevent people from getting uniformly positive reviews or rising into management. "As you get more senior there is no such thing as perfect," he explains. Show your direct reports that letting go of perfect is a step toward achieving their big-picture goals.

Coach, if possible
Not every perfectionist is coachable but it pays to try. First ask: "Are they self-aware enough to know they have this quality and motivated to learn?" says Kaplan. Of course, like everyone else, your perfectionist won't change overnight. But don't let her behavior exasperate you. Kaplan says you need to remember that everyone has weaknesses and to exercise patience. "Sometimes showing you care about someone is enough to motivate them," he says. He also suggests you find mentors who are reformed perfectionists themselves who can serve as role models. If someone they look up to can say, "I was like you," they are more likely to benefit from their advice.

Be careful with feedback
Every employee needs feedback. But perfectionists may have a harder time than others hearing criticism of their work. Don't couch your input in positives. Since critique is difficult for them, perfectionists are likely to hear only the negatives. Instead, share your apprehensions first. DeLong suggests you ask for their advice: "I'm not sure how to talk to you about how you can improve your performance. What guidance would you give me about how to give you feedback?" With this in mind, you can deliver the input in a way that won't make them defensive or demotivate them. "Have the hope and confidence that they will take it well," says DeLong.

Principles to Remember
Do:
  • Recognize that there are both positives and negatives to having a stickler on your team
  • Explain the behavior you're noticing to try to increase their self-awareness
  • Help perfectionists see that their behavior may limit their career

Don't:

  • Put a perfectionist in a role that is overly complex or requires managing people
  • Insist that perfectionists change — they won't be able to unless they want to
  • Shy away from giving feedback — instead ask for the perfectionist's advice on how to deliver it

Case Study #1: Find a better job fit
Henry Chasen,* a director at a contract manufacturing company, managed Sean* for more than 15 years. Sean was good at his job but he often rubbed Henry the wrong way. He slowed things down by double- and triple-checking his work and regularly peppering Henry with "unending questions," including ones about scenarios so unlikely that they weren't worth worrying about. Henry couldn't coach Sean into changing his behavior because he was proud of being a perfectionist. At the same time, Henry appreciated Sean's contribution and perspective. "Too many of our employees were the opposite and I thought he served as kind of a counterweight," he says. Eventually, a position opened up in the company that Henry thought would be perfect for Sean. While some in the organization saw it as a "low-level" job because it involved a great amount of attention to detail, Henry knew it was an important role. He encouraged Sean to apply, explaining that it played to his strengths. Sean agreed and switched roles shortly thereafter. "He is doing great because he's right in his sweet spot — and his co-workers respect that he's doing what none of them want to do," Henry says. He's now managing another group and adds: "I've learned not to try to put squares into circular jobs," he says.

Case Study #2: Redirect the focus
When Helen* first started working for Kate Phillips, a training manager at Infinite Group, a UK-based consultancy, she apologetically told her new boss that she was "a bit of a perfectionist." Kate suspected Helen might be exaggerating but soon found out that she wasn't. She was incredibly attentive to detail and, on occasion, obsessed with it. Part of Helen's job was to place products based on a diagram a retail store. If she couldn't find the exact diagram, she spent hours looking for it. Others on Kate's team would find an equivalent model to use in its place but Helen insisted on using the right one. When it came to reporting, her monthly reviews of bestselling products were far more elaborate than necessary, often including graphs and charts of the sales mix. "That's more than most people much higher up in the company would do," says Kate.

When Kate needed that level of detail, she called on Helen. "I'd turn to her, knowing she'd enjoy getting to the nitty-gritty and sifting out the finer points. In team tasks, I'd suggest she acted as minute taker because I knew she'd capture as much data as possible," she says.
Kate also did some coaching. When she saw Helen spending too much time and energy on a problem, Kate commended her focus and determination and suggested she use those traits to come up with an alternative solution. Together they set deadlines and paired Helen with less-detail oriented partners so she would be forced to accept "good enough" results. 

She regularly praised Helen for her work and reassured her when things didn't go well. She asked Helen to think of ways she could improve her performance. "I loved that she was so keen to do a good job. It's refreshing to work with someone who has a positive work attitude," says Kate.

*Not their real names

Article was written by
Amy Gallo

AMY GALLO

Amy Gallo is a contributing editor at Harvard Business Review. Follow her on Twitter at@amyegallo.
The Original article can be found HERE.

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Lost in the city...

Today I went to Ara Damansara - motivated by a little adventure of looking at properties there, a location unknown to me. The Oasis condominium to be specific. Today was my first time, and I drove there based on verbal instruction from the real estate agent, Mr. Deon. Except for a little confusion at the criss cross road somewhere near the Subang Parade, I got there without much difficulty.

Well...if not for the adventure, the trip was a complete waste of time. The properties were isolated, relatively deserted with so many empty units. Except for the Sime Darby office. I did not see much of anything else. Definitely not a place I wish to invest!

After a half-hearted viewing of a few units, it was time to drive home. I decided to stop over at the Parkson outlet at the Subang Parade to look for table clothes which my wife had asked me to buy. I could not find the size I was looking - one for a 10 seater dining table! The biggest they had was for eight seaters. 

Then it was time to drive back. I decided to abandon the familiar Federal highway, firstly because my car needed petrol re-fueling, and secondly I thought the Federal Highway would have been congested with traffics.

The decision proved to be a big mistake, and the start of a night-mare~!

After paying RM1.60 toll twice, I was at places of total mystery. I was of course looking for MRR2, but the signboards indicated that I was heading towards Semenyih and Kajang. I exited, and made a loop, only to find myself heading towards Len Seng, Loke Yew, Pudu! And, yes, the traffic was extra heavy! Cheras is not a place to be at 5pm on a work day! Heavy rain didn't help matters. My unfamiliarity with roads was a cause of serious stress. I called my eldest son a few times seeking help with direction. He tried to be helpful. Each time I called, he would say, "Sabar ayah...drive until you find a familiar land-mark!" 

After 90 minutes, I was relieved to see a signboard indicating that I was heading towards the Sungai Besi / Seremban highway. Although I was in a complete wrong direction, at least I was in a familiar zone. I made a loop into Jalan Istana Negara, headed towards PWTC, Jalan Genting Kelang and home bound!

150 minutes from the time I left Subang Parade, finally I arrived home in Taman Melati; relieved and repented! I would be more cautious in adventuring into unfamiliar territories in the future. Better still I would stick to my usual modus operandi of renting a taxi or taking the train! Perhaps, there is a lesson to be learned from today's journey!

That is exactly what I will be doing tonight, taking the LRT from Melati to my dinner destination with my daughter, son and daughter-in-law! See you guys there at 8pm.


Tuesday, October 18, 2011

I am in KL...

Initially I wanted to keep my short whirlwind trip to Malaysia a secret.
I wanted to spend the one week in ways I want to without any obligation or commitment to anyone.
But...i am a social person at heart! After only 3 days of living a solitary life amongst the crowd, especially with good friends only a phone call away I can't take it anymore! I must say hello to my friends...I need to share some laughters, look into their eyes and listen to their stories.
Today...I spent 2 hours pampering myself, having a facial treatment and a fish SPA at a Herbaline outlet.
After 3 days, I am now not only ready but need to reach out.
Hope to see a few of you before this relaxing week in Malaysia comes to an end! It will be a good opportunity untuk mohon ampun maaf before my Pilgrimage for Haj in two weeks time.


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Saturday, October 8, 2011

Info Haji dan Qurban


MENUJU KE JALAN ALLAH

Kita hendaklah sentiasa bersyukur ke hadrat Allah SWT yang telah memberikan taufik dan hidayah-Nya kepada kita sehingga dengan berbekalkan iman yang teguh kita telah dapat mencari penentuan hidup yang diredhai Allah. Kita juga harus bersyukur kerana kita telah dan dipilih oleh Allah menjadi tetamu-Nya dengan mengunjungi Baitullah bagi menunaikan fardhu haji. Insya-Allah. Mudah-mudahan Ibadat Haji yang akan dikerjakan menjadi satu ibadat yang boleh memberikan satu pengajaran dan pedoman bagi meningkatkan iman dan amal kita seterusnya bagi menuju jalan yang diredhai Allah untuk kebahagiaan kita di dunia dan akhirat.



PENGGUNAAN HARTA 

Menunaikan fardhu haji diwajibkan kepada mereka yang berkuasa sampai kepada-Nya, yakni mereka yang mempunyai kemampuan dalam semua aspek, khasnya kemampuan perbelanjaan di mana aspek tersebut jika digunakan bagi tujuan menyampaikan diri ke Tanah Suci untuk menunaikan fardhu haji adalah menepati kehendak kegunaan harta yang sebaik-baiknya.



IBADAH HAJI BEKALAN UNTUK AKHIRAT 

Ibadat haji selain daripada berfungsi mensucikan dosa-dosa, ia juga merupakan bekalan yang tepat menuju akhirat setelah sekian lama kita hidup di dunia yang fana ini. Sesungguhnya mereka sanggup berkorban harta benda, wang dan jiwa raga untuk memperhambakan diri dengan sebenar-benarnya kepada Allah, mereka tergolong dalam golongan yang mendapat petunjuk dan hidayah serta ketinggian martabat iman di sisi Allah.



PENGORBANAN HAJI 

Setiap ibadat yang sempurna memerlukan pengorbanan dari segi tenaga, masa, wang dan perasaan yang perlu dicurahkan. Ibadat haji khususnya bukan sahaja mengorbankan tenaga, masa dan perbelanjaan yang banyak yang dikumpulkan bertahun-tahun, bahkan ia berkehendakkan seseorang itu menanggung perpisahan dengan keluarga, sanak saudara, sahabat handai, harta kekayaan dan kampung halaman serta menahan kemahuan-kemahuan nafsu semasa dalam ihram. Ia juga merupakan satu pengorbanan yang luarbiasa dari kelaziman menunaikan ibadt-ibadat lain dalam hidup kita sepanjang tahun, umpamanya sembahyang lima waktu boleh dilakukan dalam rumah sendiri, di bilik berkipas atau berhawa dingin, begitu juga puasa boleh berbaring-baring malah tidur pun boleh di bilik yang selesa dengan tidak perlu keluar rumah.

Ibadat haji tidak memungkinkan seseorang itu mencapai kehendak ibadatnya dengan begitu mudah, kita perlu menghadirkan diri kita ke Tanah Suci dengan keadaan yang luar dari kebiasaan. Dalam ertikata lain, kita mesti keluar dari kelaziman dan kesenangan yang diterima selama ini, di mana keadaan di Tanah Suci tidak memberi peluang untuk kita menikmati keselesaan seperti di negara sendiri. Kita terpaksa berkhemah di Arafah dan Mina dengan pakaian putih di atas padang pasir memperkata dan membisikkan sesuatu kepada Allah bagi memohon keampunan dan keredhaan sebelum kembali kepada-Nya. Ibadat haji merupakan kemuncak pengorbanan seseorang hamba kepada Allah sudah tentu mempunyai kelebihan dan ganjaran yang banyak serta hikmah yang besar.
Firman Allah dalam surah Al-Haj ayat 27 hingga 29, maksudnya: "Dan serulah manusia supaya mereka mengerjakan haji, nescaya mereka akan mendatangimu dengan berjalan kaki dan menunggang kenderaan berjenis-jenis unta yang kurus. Mereka datang dari seluruh pelusuk rantau yang jauh supaya mereka menyaksikan pelbagai perkara yang mendatangkan faedah bagi mereka, serta mereka dapat mengingati dengan menyebut nama Allah pada hari-hari yang tertentu dengan sebab Allah telah mengurniakan mereka binatang-binatang ternakan untuk dijadikan qurban.
Dengan yang demikian makanlah darinya (daging qurban itu) dan berilah makan kepada orang yang susah lagi fakir, (kemudian hendaklah membersihkan diri mereka, dan hendaklah mereka menyempurnakankan nazar-nazar mereka dan hendaklah mereka tawaf akan Baitullah (Kaabah) yang tua sejarahnya itu)".
Dalam ayat tersebut Allah memerintahkan supaya haji itu hendaklah disempurnakan sekalipun dengan berjalan kaki atau berkenderaan menunggang unta yang kurus dengan sebab jauhnya berjalan. tah ada balasannya, balasan bagi haji ada dinyatakan dalam banyak hadis Rasulullah SAW.Di antara hadisnya dari Abu Hurairah, maksudnya: "Barangsiapa menunaikan haji ke Baitullah, sedangkan ia tiada melakukan persetubuhan dan perkara-perkara yang dilarang, maka bersihlah ia dari dosanya seperti pada hari ia dilahirkan oleh ibunya".

Tulisan asal dari SINI

Monday, October 3, 2011

Malays need to speak up more!

Professional Malays, due to our self-censorship which we develop from being told to 'diam dan dengar' when we were young and growing up, tend to do more passive listening and not speaking up enough when and where it matters. Observations tell you that Malays who rise to senior positions are those who not only listen actively, but also speak their mind, and assertive in pushing through with their agendas.

 When we listen passively, we retain 5% of what we've learned, when we participate actively, 90%.

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If we are in situations over and over again where we are only listening, we erode our competitive edge. It is vital that we close that gap, by opening our mouths. A low-end, low cost way of beginning to make this change is to invert our individual listening/talking ratio.

Take risks and speak up!

I disagree with any form of advise that we should shut up or else we will remove any doubt of our stupidity and ignorance. This again is a Malay way of self-sabotage. First of all, others hardly spend time analysing your level of intellect or otherwise. Only Malays give too much time thinking and protecting self-image in that way.

In my view, if you don't speak up, someone else's will. More often than not, someone would say the exact same thing you wanted to say, and gets all the credit.

It is better to make an impression, one way or another, than to not have been thought of at all. In a corporate life, to exist is to participate!

Have you heard of  a successful 'Quiet CEO - He is a diam ubi'! That Malay proverb should be limited in usage to describe the growth of 'ubi-ubi' and not to mislead our young generations to be a 'the wise silent ones'!

Let us raise future Malay leaders who dare to speak up and to express themselves!