Follow the flow is for rivers not for relationship!

When a person tells another person he or she is courting, let us go with the flow, that spells bad news. Put it another way, she or he isn't that much into the relationship. One of the reasons for doing so is to be polite instead of saying, 'You are not my type'.

Ten out ten couples who go on a 'follow the flow' arrangement does not end up down stream at the estuary of love. Many in fact flowed upstream of taking advantage, manipulation, and deceit. These couples end in break ups and the break up normally also coincide with the timing when the person has found another love in his or her life.

When your boyfriend or girlfriend tells you, 'Let us go with the flow', do not wait. Take the initiative to call it quit!

There are perhaps, certain circumstances when 'Following the flow' is appropriate. One of them is when two total strangers meet. One person may feel more emotional or physical attraction that the other, in which case the other person may say, 'Hey, let us go with the flow' as a way of saying, "I am not ready to be where you are - slow down!"

A healthy relationship can only be achieved by two people trying together to shape the flow of their relationship based on the values and expectations of each person. There may be pains and pleasures along the way, but they do not follow the flow, instead they take the responsibilities to shape the relationship to suit their goals.

If marriage is their common goal, they will climb mountains and cross the oceans together. They will shape the flow of the relationship into one which will result in a marital bliss.

If it is a casual friendship, or if it is a frienship with benefits, then they shape it accordingly.

To say 'Let's follow the flow' is to be non-committal and to not take the responsibilities to make the relationship to work.

The next time some one tells you 'Let us follow the flow', you may reply, "Okey, let us go rafting!"