One may think that by asking questions repeatedly, one is being particular about certain subjects. However, it is worthwhile to make a quick check how one's persistence come across to others.
Inability to accept answers given, and lack of courage to make one's own decisions and to be responsible for those decisions can come across as negative behaviour.
Let me illustrate through a few examples.
Let me illustrate through a few examples.
1. Joe was in a group of Muslims facing the learned Ustaz listening to explaination about some of the pertinent Law of Fiqh (Hukum Fikah).
"Rasullullah made wuduk in certain ways. There are evidence from Hadith which we can learn from!" Said the Ustaz and he went on to demonstrate how it was done!
> Joe interrrupted the act with the same question which had prompted the Ustaz to address the subject in the first place! This time, actually to the annoyance of a few of the group members.
"So if we follow the Rasullullah way, which Mazhab is that?" Joe asked, again, for the third time when the Ustaz had finished his demonstration.
> He was so stuck to the 'Which Mazhab' question that he lost perspective of the core issue - the Sunah way of making Wuduk!
2. Joe was listening to the group leaders explaination about the transportation (Bus) time-table for the group to move from the camp site to another location.
"But, if we go during that time we will miss an Afdal time to solat a Fardhu prayer!" He questioned the wisdom of the organizer.
>The organizer took pain to explain constraints and reasons why that time table was the best option for the groups, and some fatwa about the prayer time.
> Seated there, a few people already made up their mind that they were going to make their own travel arrangement so as not to inconvenient others.
Since they were able to make their own decision, they therefore could not understand why Joe had persisted that the organizer change the bus departure timing. Hence they had a negative perception of Joe.
3. Joe considers himself a good Muslim who often lead prayers. He makes effort to memorize many Surahs and Ayats. In prayer congregations, whenever he does not lead, he forces his way to the front of the line, often inconveniencing others who are already there before him.
> This act of overzealous enthusiasm trying to please Allah often result in negative reaction and perception by his colleagues. He is often seen as self-centered and conceited. But does Joe know?, Or does he care? Ermmm.
4. The group was getting ready to pray when Joe, in a very certain and loud manner corrected the way one of the Jemaah in the congregation stood and did his Takbir.
Rather surprised and embarrassed, the person at the receiving end of Joe's intervention corrected himself, per Joe prescribed way.
>After the prayer, the learned Ustaz explained that the way the person did was perfectly acceptable!
Again, Joe's over enthusiasm and over confidence came across as arrogant and patronizing. Simply said, a valid reason for him to be considered as a Pain in the Rear~!
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There are many people like Joe out there! ( I need to mention, Joe is a fictitious character!)
There could be one reading this blog entry now. Well, all I want to achieve by writing this article is to prompt everyone (including myself of course) to do a brief self-reflection or 'Muhasabah Diri' and take the necessary step not to be a pain in the rear end, on continuous basis.
Pause. Give others some credit that they too know what they are saying or doing too. Take some responsibilities to make decisions and take choices on your own, without imposing on others to believe the same way you do.
There is a small chance that you could be wrong...right? *wink*
It is better to be humbly correct than confidently wrong.
There is a small chance that you could be wrong...right? *wink*
It is better to be humbly correct than confidently wrong.
Thanks for sharing as a reminder for ourselves :) I guess u forgot to include a story abt a poor joe who was in deep slumber at the time of azan, while the congregation of ppl already prepared in rows to offer the solah :)
ReplyDeleteMK
Thank you, Sir. Well said with perfect example! A lot of Joe out there. I could be Joe 1....
ReplyDeleteOrang kampung kata "Pandai tak boleh diikut, Bodoh tak boleh diajar..."
Anon M K :-) that story was intentionally omitted and not used as an example as it may implicate a real Joe whom we both know.. hahaha.
ReplyDeleteNone of the Joe above was intended to represent any real person!
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Suria :-)
Saya sungguh suka dengan kata2 itu..."Pandai tak boleh diikut, Bodoh tak boleh diajar.."
Wise words indeed.
Gosh! I thought it was a direct swap at me..cos I can be a pain in the a**
ReplyDeleteBut I use to be otherwise too..:))
Thank God so many have confessed they too can be that particular pain! *wink2*