Why 50+ men can be so charming...

First let me say, this is not a story about myself.

Pic from PakMat's FB wall.

With that out of the way, I wish to talk about my first meeting with PakMat on one chilly evening under the open sky of Jeddah in the compound of Medinatul Hujjaz recently. From the moment we shake hand I feel a special affinity for PakMat. When we start talking, I understand a little why I like him. After two cups of tea and a pack of pre-cooked Red Sea shrimps, I feel like I have always known him and that he is a long lost friend re-united.

In the presence of our respective wife and a few of PakMat's Haji friends we spoke freely and one of the topics was about our cyber friendship. 

I was all praise for PakMat.

I told everyone around the two tables which we pulled and combined together, how I have always enjoyed reading his blog, and how I envied his wit and charm which seemed to draw so many female readers. When I met the man in person that evening, I experienced the honesty, wit and charm. He was just as honest and elonquent as the trademark of his writings.

Now back to the topic of this article, "Why 50+ men can be so charming..."

"I wish...."

There is only one PakMat in this world. However there are many 50+ men who in their own way, have been there and done that, hence do not find the need to compete for ego but often possess big hearts that give the spot light and flatteries to whoever they feel deserving and in need. Often too 50+ men have the ears to listen, big shoulders to cry on, and the wisdom to make anyone feel that everything will be okey! A few, like the VVIP husband of artist Syella Kamarudin, also has the $$$ to splash.  

Equally attractive to gold-diggers is the fact that 50+ men are only a few years away from the time they can visit the EPF office and walk out richer! Some of them have, probably, already cashed out, and in good positions to relaunch themselves with new cars, a Harley maybe, oversea holidays, even a pair or two Ferragamo shoes. These 50+ men can afford to show their affection or simply can lure the ladies to their harem with gifts and treats.

A young lady friend in her early thirties confides with me, that marrying a 50+ man is like a short term sacrifice rather than a life sentence. He will kick the bucket sooner and she then can be free to spend her inheritance. Evil, you may think. There is some truth to the evil proposition. However, most The 50+ men know the equation well; that he is in it for something a young lady can offer, and the lady is into it for something he can offer.

The equation, as it happens is always mathematical!

 ( 20+) *(36, 28, 36) = ($$$$$) * (50+)

Another reason  50+ men can be so charming is the worldly experience and wisdom he brings to the relationship. When a 20+ go into tantrums, younger males will panic, blame themselves, and fall into the trap. 50+ men however, have seen all those before. They understand the game and the state of play. They remain calm, show affection, and score goals everytime! The best thing that can happen in relationship for the 50+ is when their  20+ trophy partners get upset. The 50+ men are the master of the arts of making up, and the outcome can be quite mind blowing!

And guess what, majority of 50+ men think they can afford to be footloose and fancy free with their action and willing to face any consequences. Very often, their attitude to life is guided by the common saying, "Life is short!" They therefore act out what they do not wish to miss out before they black out - forever.

Back to my meeting with PakMat. He is a man who definitely has been there and done that, and many more too. He stroke my ego ever so subtly but so effectively. When I was leaving, we didn't shake hand. Instead, we bear hug!

I love you PakMat - and let us live this life to the fullest! Life is short.

PakMat's blog can be read HERE.