Maybe, and maybe not. It depends lah, what is the definition used for the term 'Girl friend' and the measurement 'ramai'.
If the term 'girl-friend' refers to 'kekasih' sama ada kekasih gelap or terang, the answer is 'I have none'.
Admittedly, I do have many lady friends. My FB list of friends are made of 40% members from Venus. My blog readers are mainly ladies too.
Those lady friends who know me will be the first to say that I am not that lady-friendly. There are the darker side of me. I am sharp with my words, harsh with my criticism, ridiculously impatient, and display inclination to snap with sarcasm. Many lady friends who have dealt on business or personal matters with me have ended in tears - with hurt feelings and bruised ego.
And, sejak dahulu, kini dan selamanya, I don't pujuk sesiapa yang merajuk. I don't take responsibilities for how someone else feel. You merajuk, your problem. You pujuk lah diri sendiri. hehehe. But if I know I bersalah, I will apologize! Ada juga yang tak sudi memaafkan. Itu hak dia lah! Hanya Allah yang berjanji Dia sentiasa Maha pengampun, manusia tak pernah berjanji begitu!
But I do have my sunny side too. For one, I can be funny when I want to. I can make even a dull hippo laugh! I can also be charming - giving new mirrors to any person who needs external re-inforcement in order to feel good about himself or herself.
My wife is constantly amused when I tell her that someone finds me sexy! Hahaha. She has lived with me through burps and farts, and it took her a heck of a long time before she adapt and force herself to accept the fact that burps and farts are in fact signs of true bonding and intimacy.
But lady friends I have known before have been good source of inspirations for a few of the poems I have written and included in my soon-to-be-launched book of poetry, "Echo of Silence". So to them, I say, "Thank you" for sharing some of your darkest hours, and helping me to understand a little more about the mysteries of this gender from Venus.
pP pP pP,
ReplyDeleteYou know perfectly well you are indeed women-friendly! When women are comfortable enough to open up & share their lowest & darkest moment, their joy & happiness, their dirtiest little secret with you it means they trust you and are at ease with your company. That my friend makes you very woman-friendly.
The darker side you mentioned, the one that torments with criticism & harsh words + the absurd impatience makes it all the more charmingly sexy, makes some women just want to mother you to death ;) I believe you need this to balance out the eye-blinding sunny disposition, otherwise there will be loads of trouble from here to Timbuktu.
Women who 'merajuk' & demands 'pujuk' are trouble, stay away from them, nothing you do will ever be enough. You are very in touch with your inner-feminine side, sensitive enough to know when apologies are due, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.
Just one question though, when you said that you give new mirror to those that needs help with his/her self projection, does that make you a smooth talker? Do we need to take everything you say with a pinch of salt?
yes I'm pretending like I know you
~esum~
Kak Esum yang saya samar2 siapakah anda itu :-),
ReplyDelete> I am not a smooth talker lah. i focus on a lady's good side. Many women, by default, always have self-doubt about how they look. Once men understand that, any man can make a woman feel better by not magnifying her points of doubt but by focusing on her sides.
So far, my lady friends know that I am sincere with my words. Having said that, it is always good to take what people say with a pinch of salt - that is wisdom!
You are most welcome ~ errr.... Am I one of those who give you the inspiration? Huahaha... Perasan lah saya ni....
ReplyDeleteYou're welcome..:)
ReplyDeletepP,
ReplyDeleteHow I wish I know you well enough to have inspired you, but do I dare bare my darkest secret to you, I wonder? Hopefully some day I too can say that I inspired someone once...
All the best on your upcoming book, I'm sure it's perfect in every sense, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
~esum~
Suria...:-) ada satu sajak saya tulis untuk puan...hehehe...:-)mana satu? tentunya puan sendiri tahu.
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Kak Esum :-)
Jika kak esum kenali saya, sudah tentu kak esum tak akan malu2 untuk perkenalkan diri.
tetapi kerana kak esum masih berselindung di sebalik nama samaran..tak leh saya nak nolong...hehehe.\
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Salam Pp .... have not been reading your writing for a long while. Are we still friends on Facebook? ;) Glad to see you're still actively blogging ... my blog dah bersawang since I found FB. Hope you and family are doing well.
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